As a man, I can say that after 20 years of dating and three years of marriage, I don’t know much more about women today than I did when I was 14. Women are an enigma to us, and the more time we spend around them the more we realize how little we actually understand about their nature. If we pay close attention we may pick up something helpful here and there, but the female psyche remains, to a large extend, a mystery.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
Never is this fact made clearer than during a breakup. It is as if we are being spoken to in a foreign language and just trying to piece together a sentence we can understand. Losing a girlfriend or wife can be an excruciatingly difficult experience, and not fully understanding the reasons for the breakup only makes it worse.
Deciphering the Signs
To make things more difficult, women often send mixed signals after a breakup, leaving us utterly confused about our chances of winning them back. Women are largely driven by their emotions emotions which can change on a moment’s notice with no warning. One day you may get the distinct feeling your ex is considering reconciliation, and the very next day she might act like you’re the last guy on Earth she wants to be with.
If you have recently ended up on the wrong end of a breakup, and want to figure out if your ex is open to giving you another shot, check out the helpful hints below.
1) Does she discuss the future in your presence?
If your ex is truly done with you for good it is very unlikely that she will talk about the future even casually when you are together. I she shares her plans with you or mentions things she wants to do in the future it could mean that she is still considering reconciliation.
2) Is there still intimacy contact between you?
No, intimacy contact is not sex. It is a comforting hand on the shoulder or similar gestures that indicate familiarity, trust and intimacy. If your ex is still initiating intimacy contact it is a good sign that she is still emotionally attached to you.
3) Does she show signs of possessiveness or protectiveness?
When a woman is emotionally invested she almost cannot help showing signs of her attachment. Look for her to behave in a similar manner as she would have when you were together. This is a pretty sure sign that she is still emotionally involved.
4) Does she smile involuntarily when your eyes meet?
Eye contact is an extremely powerful indicator of underlying emotions. If she cannot help but crack a smile when you look her in the eye for more than a second, it is usually a sign of remaining feelings.
5) Is she preventing you from moving on by placing demands on your time?
If she is truly over the relationship she will not be spending all of her time hanging out with you. This is a sure sign she is not ready to let go.
Hope this has been of help to you in reading the signs and making the right decisions going forward.